What about the vow of obedience? Does it mean you have to do what your told or else?

Like the other vows, obedience is meant to help us grow in God’s grace. We believe that God acts through the ministers of our Order and our friaries in guiding us in grace. Our obedience is not “blind obedience,” but a faith-filled openness to going beyond our own desires and fears. Ultimately, this vow is meant to help us mean it when we pray: “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done…”